With my maternal transference with my T., I went through all sorts of phases. I realized it after talking to a friend and T. smiled when I told her. I think I posted about it but here's how it seemed to go:
In the beginning, intense loving feelings/wanting to connect like an infant.
Next, wanting to know all about her like a child mirroring a parent.
Next, teenage years in that I argued/pushed her away/was silent - longest stage and I was quite mean. I also felt rebellious outside of therapy. I didn't care if something happened to me and wanted to drink a lot more. My T. said she felt she was "walking the plank" ready for me to kick her off.
Now I guess I'm an adult but I feel myself shift among all these stages I guess depending on what we're discussing. I would share this with your T. If my T. brings up my mom's apology, I instantly go into teenage mode not responding and not wanting to hear what she has to say.