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Originally Posted by ak482
The stigmatizing continues. Now virgins are seen as hateful, pathetic, vicious scum who are angry at the world. I can't fight through every stereotype so much longer. Either I have meaningful sex or I die, end of story. Literally no one wants to date a 40 year old virgin so I won't give anyone that chance.
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I know that your focus here is sex. But in order to get to sex, you have to have a modicum of social/interpersonal skills and relationship skills. Depression can also be something that potential partners pick up on and shy away from. How much have you worked on this stuff? Honestly, these things are going to matter more to someone than whether you're a virgin or not.
I also don't think the stigma against virgins is as strong as you think it is. I think you're overfocused on this. And for what it's worth, I dated a 39 year old virgin. I chased after him, in fact. I loved who he was as a human being. Period.
I know this is all very easy for me to say, and you're in a lot of pain. But I hope you're working on these other things, too. That's what's going to get you where you want to be.