I don't pay much attention to how my T looks. I only recently realized that she's actually shorter than me (I originally thought she was taller). I do pay attention to her hair. If it's up, it means she's not feeling well. I pay attention to how she sits and her facial expressions. I know that she is slender, but not skinny...a very healthy size imo. And I do notice when she wears any color besides black, white, grey, or blue. And when she wears a pencil skirt (she always seems so uncomfortable because she has to sit proper).