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Originally Posted by 8888an8888
i would have a mass of confusing horrible emotions seeing my therapist with her new baby, so i can only imagine how it feels for you.
don't blame yourself for not feeling too happy for her or not feeling the 'right' emotions for when someone has a baby. it's bound to hurt and not to mention the overwhelming anxiety of running into your pdoc. whatever you're feeling is valid. i understand it was probably a nasty shock.  |
I am attached to my Pdoc, but it's not transference. I have no problem knowing she has a personal life. I do like knowing the facts, but I have no desire to be a part of her personal life at any point in time. I'm a firm believer in not having dual relationships. Some people, yes, I would hope for some sort of relationship after the professional relationship is over. But while anyone is in my life as a professional, I want them to solely have that role and no other.
I didn't see my Pdoc with her baby. I just saw her in labor and with her husband. I know what the baby looks like because I saw his picture online.
There's only 2 reasons why it upset me to see her.
1. I don't like seeing anyone in public unless it's planned. Maybe that's the agoraphobia? I saw my sister once at the grocery store and it caused me a lot of anxiety.
2. The last time I saw her, I had a horrible appointment. She did call me a month later, but the feelings from the last appointment still persist. I miss her a lot, but I haven't dealt with the temporary loss of her in my life. So seeing her triggered all those emotions.