Thanks for all your responses. I'm going through a lot right now on several fronts, and this additional question of whether I can contact my daughter's therapist or not is just too much for me right now. I know I need to do what is best for my daughter, but I don't have the ability to figure this out right now. So I'm going to do nothing until I am better able to cope. I know it's a cop-out and I feel like a failure on this, but I am overwhelmed right now. I need to get some stuff off of my plate. Sigh. So I called my daughter's therapist and left a message saying that at this time I had decided not to talk with my daughter to ask her permission for me to contact her. And I would let her know in the future if I did decide to do that.

P.S. to all who mentioned my husband's role in this: I hear ya. ((((hugs))))