I totally agree with you, the "professional advice" is, at best, totally useless, and at worst absolutely terrible.

The concept of "scheduling sex" is a problem in my relationship too. I'd actually be okay with scheduling it, if only to ensure that things like housework don't get totally neglected in hubby's enthusiastic quest for lots and lots of sex. He's the one against it, saying it takes all the spontaneity and fun out of it.

I hope your wife talks to her doc about the lack of sex drive. Hugs.