I haven't had a chance to read all the responses...I am concerned though about the T that sees your daughter.

My oldest sees a T every week and the middle one every other week - I am actively involved in their sessions. What has happen during the week, behaviour, accomplishments, things I think we should be working on, etc.

Sometimes I go in first, sometimes the boys go in first. It is very interactive. We don't have any formal rules - the goal is to get everyone on the right track...

If you are looking for this type of therapy, I think a different therapist would be the way to go...asking about your role to in the sessions.