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Originally Posted by Ruftin
(((IG)))...I think as a woman you have the upper hand here. You can decide when, where and how long you want to meet with this gentleman. A cup of coffee never killed anyone. Right?? Just take it slow and be yourself. If it works out, great, if not it was just a cup of coffee with an acquaintance.  |
I don't know though. He must feel like I've messed him around a lot. He had already set off for the place we were meant to be meeting last night, he was on the tube so he didn't even get my message until he was there waiting for me. That's a horrible thing to do to him.
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Originally Posted by wotchermuggle
If I could suggest something, could you reframe the situation with your therapist and look at it from my perspective of , "I'm not gonna let my therapist ruin this relationship for me" ?
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Yes, I know I should do this. Actually I should just put her out of my head altogether and in some ways this isn't hard. I dunno. I can't explain it. I mean, I was
dying to kiss this dude last night. I was ready to leave the house and then just couldn't. My bones felt made of lead and I felt crushed under such a weight of a really oxymoronic mix of listlessness and edginess.
He thinks I'm beautiful, which is nice, but it's what she used to say...his enthusiasm and general kindness reminds me of her even though it's a different context. I can't trust it. It's like these people are too good to be true. At least with ex boyfriend, he was lovely at first but right from the start I could see the acid in him as well.