i too have this dilemma. from the age of 2/3 my mother never protected me, taking meon her affairs, me having to watch, then she had anaffair with apdoc who sexually abused me from 8 -15 when she knew he was a paedophile and had been in court in the past. never believed me when i told her at 15,just went into denial and styedthere til recently. she still puts me secondafter her bloody pet dogs, other people etc. i wish i could give answers, i have this love/hate relationship with her. she is good to me in other ways, maybe to appease her own guilt, but it was her loveand care i needed, not material things. i'k hereto listen and maybe identify with aspects of this problem, i'm hoping twill sort this out for me.

jinny xoxoxoxoxo