My view of the situation is, the tutors are more cbt or dbt oriented, and either they had healthier attachments growing up, or they are in denial. Anyway, they dont understand the process we have to go thru - to detach from the bad at one end AND attach to the good at the other end. And do a flying somersault in mid-air in between. Without a net. Ive had people cluck at me that i was doing therapy wrong, that i was too attached to my ts. Looking back on those times, i would say i really was not aware of the effect my family had on me. It was not my ts fault. There was a lot of damage i closed my eyes to.