((((((((((((innysweety))))))))))))))))

I don't know how you live in such small quarters with 9 other people. It would make me so frustrated. I know I couldn't do it. It's hard too, to live with folks from a different culture.

Now, I have a couple of thougts here. If you are going to continue to live with them, then some changes have to be made. Remember, you cannot change others and the way they think. You only have control over yourself and how you think. You can choose to accept their laziness and how they are taking advantage of you, and you can keep getting angry about it, and letting it eat you up inside, or, you can change how you think and what you do for them while you are there.

1. Accept how it is and stop complaining or
2. Lay out ground rules for yourself - what you are willing to give of yourself to the household, physically and monetarily.
3. Stop pissing out money to the younger ones if they do not earn it! Yes, it's nice to help out, but its not nice to be taken advantage of.
4. Don't expect them to have consideration for you. They obviously don't already, and if you keep expecting them to and you are always disappointed when they don't, you are setting yourself up for frustration/anger/hurt.
5. Yes, living alone can be scary in the beginning. But, if it's what you need to do for your own peace of mind and safety, then take the first steps.
6. If you cannot see yourself getting your own place, then you need to let your bf know that while you appreciate having a roof over your head, it does not give anyone the right to take advantage of you.

I hope you are able to let go of some of the anger soon hon. Remember, you do have control over yourself. How you perceive things, how you respond to things, how you handle yourself is your control. Maybe if you stopped running behind everyone and cleaning up after them, they would have to get up and do it themselves. It may take some time for them to get the hint, and it may be hard for you to NOT do everything.

Hang in there sweety.....

Hugsssss
J