I think even having awareness of these issues (and they're not good or bad, they're just something important to you) is already a step in the right direction. And it looks like you've set some goals as well. Not to sound trite, but you're unraveling a few decades' worth of thinking and behaviors, so it's going to take a while to see huge differences. In my experience, it feels unbearably sisyphean (sorry, I love that word) sometimes, but the tiny tasks and practices have moved me forward in some big ways, and not in others. ETA: but I see where I still want to make improvements (and therapy has helped with identifying these things, for sure).

Also, FWIW, having trouble making more money and moving forward in your career isn't necessarily a reflection on you. Lots of people are struggling with those things, especially the last 5 or 6 years. There just seems to be more well-educated, capable people than there are jobs. You're definitely not alone in this.