My t said the reason i go to therapy is to realize that getting hurt isnt the end of the world, and doesnt have to be the end of the relationship. My parents didnt have a good perspective on this - my father always gave in, my mother never apologized - she was always right. That is a very one-sided and unrealistic relationship. Its in fantasyland. They drew the same line in the sand with me - follow our orders or else. You dont want to be one of those controlling husbands on the jerry springer show! On the other hand, you dont want a girl to play you for a fool. But to never hurt you? She would have to be your female clone.