I don't know that much about BDSM but I don't see what's wrong with it when both parties are clear on limits and all that stuff. I did go to a party years ago and tried out using a soft whip with someone just to see what the attraction is but it wasn't my thing.

Are you part of the BDSM community? Or are you going to get involved with it? If you do, maybe you can find your Dom. Why not?