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Mar 08, 2015, 10:06 PM

I have talked with t about my "interests" that are along the same lines as yours. There wasn't really much to talk about, though; once I told her "this is one thing about myself that I am SURE of; it is part of who I am, I am just wired this way." I told her, to give her context for a dream I had had. JS is right, the sub is not surrendering their power. At least, not in a healthy D/s relationship.

Possible trigger:

I'll be honest and admit it here, if it helps you any to read it, I am into getting spanked, I need it like I need air you know, and we're not talking 'play spankings' either we're talking the real thing. I have different paddles and other toys. But as to who to 'play' with - trust is so important. You can't just jump at the first person you meet that says they're into it. You gotta talk - a lot - and get to know each other. etc. Like ragsnfeathers said - clear agreements about limits and other stuff are important. At least, in my experience. I've never been to a club or anything so I can't speak to that experience.

And she basically responded well if you don't have a problem with it, then there's nothing for us to talk about. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Every now and then it comes up randomly and she doesn't seem to have a problem with it.