I can see how your two different beliefs about therapy could be a crossed purposes.

For me, I was in therapy to understand myself, to understand where I had been and where that left me now, to understand how to move forward from this point. Yes, being understood was part of that process, but being understood was only one part of the whole process. For me, if I had stopped at being understood, I'd still be stuck right where I went in. I needed to understand where to go from where I was.