Yesyes, and it's a biggie!! To "understand"... that encompasses a lot. For me, I realized only in the last few months (3 years into therapy) that why I was there - I couldn't answer the question in the beginning - was that I needed someone who could and would LISTEN to ME, and understand/accept my real ME, because no one ever had before. And you know what happened? By her constantly doing that over time, I am learning to listen to/understand/accept my real me inside myself. That is kinda a huge thing, if you think about it. I'm still getting there, it's definitely a process, but oh so worth it.