Did she explain what you're supposed to understand? Yourself? Her? Your life? There are many ways of interpreting that I guess. I'm not sure understanding would be a goal or productive for me. I tend to ruminate about things and trying to figure out the whys of life and things that have happened is not helpful at all. Sometimes things just are and we have to accept them. But again, I am not really sure what she meant by that.

If she wasn't giving you or offering you what you needed in therapy then it might be best to find someone else or whatever.