My exT was a bit like that. She did not take the time to understand where I was coming from (or else we were simply too different for her to be able to understand) but she gave me advice and "insights" based on her faulty perception. And she did not allow me the time to discover things for myself. My current T is the opposite of that, in both ways: he does understand me much better than she did, but he also stays back and allows me to reach my own insights at my own pace. (That means that my therapy involves a lot of long silences. It is awesome to have somebody be sufficiently interested in what I have to say to be prepared to wait for as long as it takes for me to say it!)