Thank you for the input. The help I'm needing is a little different. I'm not trying to "fix" her. She has a disorder, she's not needing fixed and there is not a cure for the disorder. "Fixing" is not on my agenda. I'm trying to help her "cope" with the disorder (and myself too). I understand what she's going through and can empathize how it's making her feel, even if i don't understand the feelings or the effects bipolar has on her from personal experience. I can still witness the effects it has on her and imagine how painful, angering, lost, hopeless, and out of control she must feel. I do step back quite often when she says she doesn't want to talk, or her triggers have caused her to become so angry i know we can't resolve anything until it passes. And i wait. But the fights are increasing in frequency to where we now fight every other day and the fight will take days sometimes before she is calm again and able to talk. I'm scared, she is taking about leaving when she is angry and things are deteriorating. The help i need is support. Help for her and i to learn how to have a relationship and work through this together. I'm not here trying to fix her or blame her or anything in those regards. I'm looking for help for us and our family so we don't lose what was so wonderful because we couldn't find a way to handle this. That is what I'm desperately trying to find