((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))) i have calmed down thank god lol....and ive decided i am not cleaning anything until the others start pitching in....i realized its partially my fault for allowing them to do nothing for all this time....by cleaning the house during the day, and getting things done myself after they start throwing hissy fits ....not anymore...i told my bf...that until something changes...this house will not be cleaned by me .....period end of story.....people can change....and im hoping my boyfriend will stop being the enabler....but if he doesnt....the house will just continue to grow dirtier and dirtier...until people cant stand it anymore.....the only thing i will continue to do is take care of my space and wash dishes otherwise.....its up to everyone else how they want to handle the situation....if they want to do it themselves and not let the teenagers do anything at all....then fine...thats their choice...but not mine ...and i refuse to feel guilty with it....thanks for all your kind words to me...it means alot......, love, inny