Pat, Sabau, Direction,

Thank you all for your input.

I do initiate calm conversations with him on a fairly regular basis, hoping to evoke some ideas from him on how to improve our situation. He typically is evasive, and doesn't come up with any real ideas for improvement. As far as he is concerned everything is perfect.

I told him yesterday when he was driving me back and forth, that if he didn't clean up his act, I was going to haul him off to a therapist I had seen when we still lived in civilization.

Our money is so tight, and her office is 70 miles away (one way), which brings me back to my dissatisfaction with living here. Grrrrrr.

One major stumbling block to splitting up are our family of four-footed friends: six dogs, and eight cats.

Anyone want a St. Bernard -- I have three -- plus a Great Dane!!

I sware I have stayed in this marriage as long as I have for "the children". While our headcount was smaller, before moving to the country and 18 acres, we have always had some exceptional pets, who I couldn't stand to leave.

It is great to be able to vent, and get feedback on this issue.

EJ