Be patient. You sound a lot like my husband and this sounds like what we are going through. It will take time for her meds to work. I will rage at my husband out of no where and then apologize the next day when I'm in a better state of mind. She may be very down right now and that may be why she seems disconnected. Just let her know you are there for her and that you love her. If she doesn't try to seek help, take her meds, or work on the marriage with you (specifically when she is feeling better) then that may be the time to re evaluate your marriage.