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Originally Posted by Tsukiko-chan
Thanks so much for caring and replying, gayleggg.  I've talked with a couple of people about the situation and everyone says the same: try hard not to feel guilty because I did my best I keep repeating that in my head but a guilt remains that I offered to help him financially in the first place.
When I posted, I was a hot mess. I was in a total panic. Now that I've had some time to calm down, my brain is functioning again and I can see the ridiculousness (is that a word? lol) of the situation. I have no way to verify his story. The whole thing could be a crock. And even if it's not, I know that he has a relative that he can turn to for help if he's in the dire straits he's claiming.
I made the decision to cease communication with him and in doing so, it has relieved quite a bit of my anxiety. As much as I don't like ending relationships on such a crappy note, I gotta do what I gotta do to preserve my health and sanity. |
I think that's really good. I think it takes a lot of gall to ask someone for money and then blow up when they don't come through. I wouldn't feel guilty at all. Everyone has their own journey and if he wants to avoid homelessness, he needs to rely on more than the charity of friends (eg, being a leech). That might mean he needs to find some creative ways to make quick cash, but that's on HIM, not you. Hell, I know I've been in the position to figure out how to supplement my lousy income real fast.
Ending this one wasn't even your fault. It makes me wonder if that's all he cared about.
I'm sorry that you went through this. You seem like a very sensitive person and I hope that you find real friends who see you as more than a means to their own end.