hi siuk
i think you said it here I guess I’m just afraid I’ll lose my best friend, I’ll lose the most significant person in my life and the one person who I’ve been inseparable from for so long. it may not be that you are really hurting that you want her as a romantic partner, i dont really pick that up. you guys have tired that and it hasnt worked. but the idea of her not being there at your "beck and call" (and i dont mean that in a mean or sarcastic way), its hard to handle. she has been such a big part of your life. you rely on her being there for you when ever you have needed her but with another man in the picture, you know he will come first. and that hurts. no more calling and having her anytime because she may be with him. that is a big loss. perhaps you should discuss it with her and let her know your fears so she is conscientious about not shutting you out as she becomes more involved in this new relationship. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome