I view changes very poorly, they are almost unbearable to me so everything I say comes from a place of understanding.

I understand you would be hurt and so maybe want to withold your information as a punishment to T. The email she sent you is wonderful, I think shows an excellent amount of care and explains herself and her actions so very well. If you are able to see past your hurt and the pain of the change then you may be able to view the care and logic.

If you cannot tolerate a relationship without touch then it may be time to move by, if you can see the care she shows you and regard she has for you then you may be able to work. This is your choice but she seems to be listening very closely.