Wish those were real-I'm so sorry you have so much shite on your plate right now-it sucks. I can relate to many of things you are going through as I had many of those same issues in my first marriage-it's so hard being the responsible one-it's like you're never allowed to have your own problems much less a bad day. Please vent away-we're always here to listen & support. I think you deserve a freakin medal & maybe should look into some couples & family therapy-has helped me immensely & it sure can't hurt-please take care