What you say about coming across as a helpless child and others wanting to save/ control you isn't uncommon. I think it worth talking to her about this however since I don't think she'd take the stance of rescuer in this case. I actually think she might focus on your preoccupation with ex t and help you process your feelings. I've been similar in the past and elicit a similar reaction in people, but my T ultimately encourages me to do the confronting if it's what I want. No matter how much you bring out the protective side of a T, a good one will still encourage you to make the decision.