The majority of men still want to be boss, the biggest earner, and in control. Its not PC to say so but it is still true.
I think he feels overtaken, left behind, belittled. He is blaming you for being successful. This puts his failures in stark contrast (in his head) to your achievements. He is blaming you for his own insecurities.
To say its your fault, that you have shattered his heart is emotional blackmail.
Maybe you have outgrown him.
Men dream of the sassy, clever, career woman but in the end cant cope with feeling inadequate up against one.
Unless he can resolve his issues, get therapy maybe? You might need to move on.

Are his family understanding toward you, or do they blame you too?