Welcome to Psych Central. So glad you are a compassionate friend. That is wonderful.

But it is tough to have all that sad stuff welled up within. Used to drink to feel better but it used to make the depression worse.

I have a bunch of things that help take the edge off.
I now use peppermint tea, a little strong to unwind. And funny movies or clips from you tube.
In the morning I exercise and do yoga streching. (there are places online if you need links - private message me left click on name in blue to left of post)

Meditation is the closest to drinking alcohol. It is more subtle but it calms me down enough so afterward I feel pretty good.

Some simple counting breaths can help too. Just let me know if you want instructions.