Wantthings2bbetter, Hello and welcome to PC.

I can say that there is nothing wrong with wanted to be validated and not taken for granted. That is how all of us feel. I don't think asking for money for bills is wrong. No one deserves to be screamed at.

I really can't help you with a mental issue as I am not a mental health professional. Have you considered couples counseling? I really think that you are just trying to do the right things and you can't change someone else's responses but you can change yours. I hope that things settle down for you. I will say that it is a little harder to help when there is so much information and so many questions as I did my best to give you support. I hope this helps you some.

If you have any questions about how to navigate this site feel free to contact a community liaison or moderator. Best wishes at home and here on PC.