EJ,

I kind of figured he probably avoids questions that put him at a disadvantage. I think you need to ask anyway...

It may not produce something you want to hear though...

Asking the question can lead you to the decisions you will need to make...

Don't make the assumption he will avoid this one...past reactions are a good indicator of future reactions; however, if you don't take the opportunity you may throw away something that doesn't need to be...

Frame the question that you are really concerned about your marriage...

I think someone already suggested gathering paperwork and getting it to a safe place...In your current condition this may be difficult...you need to do this before the question is asked...

I left my ex 8 days after coming out of the hospital - she originally didn't want me to come home - While home - I gathered everything and took it to work and made copies...8 days later I left the house after a big arguement to stay in a hotel - it is a good thing I had everything somewhere else - she broke open my breif case...

Anyway this is getting long. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best!