I'm starting to think that maybe I don't want to keep any more contact with my family. I think it would be best for them, and maybe me as well. Last week, I told my Mom that I was thinking of getting a tattoo on my upper arm. She said that this made her want to puke and started saying that she didn't think that my living with them could work if I had such a "different lifestyle". The next day, she seemed to say that if I was paying for stuff around the house and all that she wouldn't really have an issue with it. Then, fast forward to this week, I went to counseling and the counselor brought up a traumatic event that happened a few years ago. This got me very upset and I talked it over with them for a while and then while they were watching their show, I sat down on the couch next to them and sat there with my head in my hands. They became upset with me for interrupting their show and when I told them why, my mother simply shook her head. I had talked things over with them about what happened for a while earlier, but then they got all upset with me for interrupting their show. They have been very helpful and there for me in some ways, helping me with homework a lot, supporting me with college, offering to move in with me when I was away at school and doing very badly, and would talk to me on the phone for hours when I needed that. However, they have had a way of being quite callous at times, initially when I expressed that I was very depressed my mother simply told me to "cut it out". Also, one one occasion they became very angry with me after I came home from a party when I was 16 and when I addressed my mother as Mom she told me not to call her that, and that I was a monster and she would no longer try with me. Then, one time I came home from a talk where the guy was talking about his struggle with depression just when I was starting to experience difficulties. He had cut himself and in response to that she told me to stay away from the guy. I said how if it was a family member that maybe she wouldn't feel that way and she basically said that she still would avoid the person. The thing is I used to cut myself as well and my parents ultimately knew about this and although they were upset about it, they weren't angry or anything, just wanted to get me help and they were very concerned. Luckily, I was able to stop this behavior about a month and a half ago before I wound up in the ER for an infection or anything like that. Lately though, the things that have come up have really annoyed me and tonight I'm considering just leaving and not speaking to them again, ever, just pretending they don't exist and if they call me or try to make contact with me I'd just not respond at all.
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