I know you guys have started communicating better outside the bedroom and that's awesome. Have you communicated to him how your sense of touch changes? I think it's something you will want to mention outside the bedroom. Mrs. Webgoji and I have a "Concerns" talk every Wednesday where we can talk about the things the other has done that really made our week great or maybe some things that might be concerning us. (Always start positive.) Bringing it up in a "Concerns" talk could go as simply, "It's weird, but it's great when I get touched here, but then it moves for some reason. Do you think next time we could try moving it here and there? That way I get touched every place I want?"

Second, and this is one that women get trapped into, say what you're liking or not liking in bed. Don't be afraid to verbalize it. I saw one woman on a therapy show the other day say, "Stop asking if I like this or that and just do it." Of course the therapist responded that there was no way for him to know what she liked if she wouldn't tell him in the heat of the moment.

So from a man's perspective, it's important to hear what your lover is liking or not liking in the moment. It helps us adjust what we're up to and makes reading body language easier. It's not upsetting to know that sticking our big toe in your ear isn't doing it for you, it upsetting for us to think it is and then find out later.

So speak up and don't make it about you/him. Just something like, "Ah! It moved. Now do over here!" (Heck, it might even turn into a fun little game chasing around your happy spot. )