Steve

I think that tattoos a case of personal choice.

What one finds appealing, others may find less appealing.

About what happened with your couselor, yes discussing traumatic events from the past can make us upset.

Some people I guess aren't really too sensitive about when we speak to them.

So I am sorry that you were dismissed when you tried to speak to your mom about this important issue.

There seems to be a lot going on with the relationship between you and your mother.

I guess things may have been said from both sides.

Yes, I can understand from an outside perspective why your mom may have told you to stay away from the person who self harms. I'm not saying what she said was right at all. But was merely a statement based on her opinion. It was probably one based on fear and painful memories, seeming as your mom knew about your prior self harming behaviours. I am glad that you have stopped this.

Yes I am sure that from time to time you will feel annoyed.

I know that you are considering leaving or never speaking to them again.

But this is kind of pushing it to the other extreme in order to protect yourself.

I am just not sure that this is the solution?

It might feel like the right solution in the short term.

But in the long term I don't think it will solve much.

The reasons for your disputes will still remain there.

I'd vote you stay and see what can be done in resolving this, or attempting to work towards a resolution.