So I imagine he's been hammered in outburst make him "bad" person and some feelings are bad....

Had the same problem in school. That's why I was recommended meds (and designer's clothes to fit in betta with the snobby bullies) in fourth grade. As I said before, my mom said no and I am thankful. I was dealing with grief isues at that time, so that makes it even more absurd. Teacher was pushing me to be smily and giggly kids, when I was ****ing sad... and even back then bit too intelligent to enjoy the shallow things. I enjoyed other things, but my interest in politics and stars and planets and attempts to write were considered part of my issues.

Many many many year later, after struggling a lot but getting through, I came across materials about emotional education. There is some pretty simple concept, which I wish I was taught back then.

Might have saved me lot of angst.

I don't know too much about the US school system, but over here it sucks. When I was studying to get my teacher's licence, I discovered it's still the same as it was in my youth. Impersonal, too much workload with little merit and teachers that are bound to scar the kids for life. Thankfully pharma does not have so much grasp on our kids, given some questionable practices (ADHD kids are routinely given sedatives so they are quiet and don't bother others, although stimulants are also starting to get churned at some kids quite liberally...), but it's getting there. Ya know awareness and we need to catch up with west in psych pill poppin'.