I'm trying to think if I have any point of reference with my T like the chair or the earring. My T has a lot of stuff in his office, which is huge. Sometimes I notice stuff there I have never noticed before and will ask him about it, and he has said, no, that's been here all along. I did notice when he got new sculptures, and we spent a long time talking about their meaning. They form a healing circle, and I am part of that circle when I am there. I like that.

Rituals, such as sister's holding her breath: well, when I park outside in the lot, I try to park right next to T's car, if I happen to notice it there. I don't think it is there all the time and I don't look too hard for it, but if I see it, I will park next to it (unless lol some other wacky clients have already claimed the honor!). I actually don't even know if the car I think is his really does belong to him. I just think it is his because he has told me the make, model, and year of his car (but not the color or license plate number). So I can't be sure, plus it is a large parking lot that serves several buildings and the waterfront.