I go with the unpopular vote, too. I don't happen to like facial piercings. I have friends and family with them and haven't ever gone all negative on them because it's their thing and not really my place to offer an opinion.

But I happen to find them a sexual turn-off. Can't help it. It's not a rational judgment, it's a physical reaction. Big sexual turn off. If my niece or nephew shows up with a facial piercing it doesn't matter because Auntie doesn't have a sexual thing going on for them. Pierce away and if I don't like it, I'll keep it to myself.

But if my H showed up with a facial piercing, especially a piercing in the lip, tongue or septum, it would be a major sexual turn off. A big one. I wouldn't like it one bit and I'd tell him. But he already knows I find them a turn-off because we talk about that sort of thing.

It sounds like you sprung your new lip ring on him without talking about it first and maybe it's a turn-off for him and you didn't know because you guys aren't communicating. Neither of you. You surprised him and he freaked. Neither of you stopped to talk before doing your own solo emotional thing.

Your lip ring and his disdain for it aren't the real problem. Not communicating well with each other -- again, both of you -- is the real issue that will make or break your relationship.

Hope you two figure this out and have a happy ending.