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Originally Posted by Wantthings2bbetter
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! You are quite perceptive in regards to the it seems like the person providing most of the support is usually the one who also has to take care of everything else. I've always notice that since I'm in the same boat. But sitting down and having any normal conversation about any "issues" will never happen with him. It's my fault for allowing this obstacle to remain there in all the years during out relationship. So how can I expect to teach an old dog new tricks? Thank you though.
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You won't be able to teach
him anything, most likely. What I was suggesting was that you lay it on the line and tell your boyfriend what you need, and the consequences of you not getting your needs met.
The way I see it, if you love this man and he loves you, you could still "be together" without living together. That would relieve you of the burdens of financially supporting him and cleaning up after him, and he could run his life anyway he saw fit and see you when it was good for both of you to get together. He's betting on you not doing this. Decide how you want the rest of your life to go, and proceed accordingly. I wish you the very best.