Hi Bipolarist,
I had a huge challenge with dating. The inner chatter went like this: is this person going to be a lover, or are we to remain just friends? And after exhausting inner debating I'd make a decision and act accordingly, with means each of those forks had it's own behavior set.

In my practice rounds for learning NLP I brought this up. One of the participants said she was married to her high school sweetheart and that question never occured to her. A revelation, not everyone goes though this?

So, when the chatter fired up, I would simply remind myself I couldn't decide yet—not enough information. And them pay close attention to how the interaction itself in real life was proceeding.

I trust that somewhere in you is the question that can steer your chatter to the sidelines so you can enjoy the here and now.
Revu2