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Originally Posted by HockingPastryChef
From what I can see is that you are making too much judgment towards yourself. You need to realize that you are you.
Do some self awareness tests on yourself like write out what you like and don't like, your interests and what you want to find in a healthy friendship. Looking into assertiveness helps too.
I think you are just over-thinking on yourself which is creating anxiety.
I also want to put is everybody has those moments time to time where they will feel out of place from others.
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Thank you, yes people do tend to tell me I'm too harsh on myself. It tends to be perfectionism. I don't think I'm really bad - like I say, I don't have unstable friendships or conflicts - I just want to be doing my best all the time. I could probably be more forgiving towards myself and I'm trying that.
I know what I like and don't like and what my interests are and stuff
I also know what I want in a friendship. It's basically exactly what I have in my current friendships but more equality. We get on absolutely great when we're together, but I'd like it if they invited me to hang out sometimes instead of it always being me. If they did that, our friendships would be perfect to me.
I don't feel particularly anxious, to be honest, I'm not even really that lonely. I've just noticed that I have less resilience to some life challenges because of my isolation so I've decided to think about what I could do to solve that. I spend most of my time alone.
I do realise people have moments etc, but for me it's basically everybody. There's no one I would miss, basically, were they not around. I like them, we're just not connected. I've only ever missed one person and that was an ex a very long time ago.