So when the therapist can't see they're in over their head then it's the client's fault? I mean if the therapist can't see the ED in your hypothetical situation then what happens? Whose fault is it? Who is responsible?

I'm not sure what you're saying honestly. Because it truly is a terrifying thought that therapists are that dumb sometimes.

What are the answers to this dilemma?

If issues are so unclear to everyone even the therapist then how is there any hope for any of us with very serious issues? I thought I had a great therapist too, but I didn't. What happened to me could happen to anyone. Don't fool yourself by thinking it couldn't.