There are other DID people that have alters that burst forth onto the scene and cause trouble. I am only starting to learn how these work.

Sounds like there are mixed feelings within you. Sometimes an honest note how stressed and not feeling well and can we just let this settle down and talk more later. Maybe you have already done this.

Getting sleep can help in my case. try sleeping on this one. If he is an empathetic person he can laugh at your alters. If he is steaming mad, he may not have the disposition to be in a relationship with a person with alters.

I have break up threats every so often and I wait until the wind changes.