Thanks, Sky. I think you are right, I do have a good T! I always tell T what it is I want to work on. He has the philosophy that the client knows how best to heal and what to work on in order to heal. The client just has to discover that (with help, of course, if need be). So from the start, I have determined the content of our sessions.

This was different, though, as it was the first time that I told T that certain things he was doing or techniques he was using were not helpful to me. (Well, maybe the second time as I just remembered I did this also a couple of sessions ago!) I think, before, I just didn't know that, or as I said, he seemed to do everything "right" before. Somehow, I am getting better at knowing what techniques are helpful and which are not and what things he says that are counterproductive. Before, I had come to be able to discern what he did that really helped me, but not so much what didn't help me. When I told him the things that were unhelpful, he was so eager to hear them, so open. Not defensive at all, as a know-it-all authority figure might be. I felt so strongly his sense of collaboration and willingness to learn from me how best he could help. And he said things that made me tune my thinking too. It was definitely give and take to find the best way, together. It was simply great.

Heck, now I'm all mooshy with T love again.