I have a 20 yr. old son who refuses to seek psychiatric help. His gf broke up with after almost 3 years but I don't blame her. In these years he has become worse. He has poor hygiene and has gained about 50lbs. He was drinking excessively and then they would fight so he has cut that back. He won't go anywhere in our town. He hates the people in our town, he hates college (although he does so well), he associates with NO one at college, goes to class looks to the ground and goes back to his apartment where he lives alone. He won't go out to eat with his family. He won't sit with us at dinner. If I bring up family vacations he cries. He cries when I talk about the family business. My dad strongly encouraged me to major in business and work for him instead of doing what I really wanted to do. This my son says has ruined him. The fact that I did not do what I wanted?? I think that is an excuse. He worked for the family business for a few years during high school but now refuses to work there due to his issues and that it ruined his life.

I have told him I will not get him a car or give him any money until he seeks help. His family doc has him on lexapro but that is not working. He won't even talk to us about what is going on.

I don't know how to make him get help! He is like 6foot 280lbs so I can't drag him there. Yes, he has gained so much weight. It is so unhealthy.

I am scared for him, for his future.