How does a therapist end it gracefully or without damage to the client, especially terminating someone with abandonment issues?

Recent themes on PC have me thinking. When a therapist feels they can no longer see a client , because of their professional limitations and/or the client / therapist relationship isn't conducive to the client's healing anymore, How does the therapist end it?

I look back when I was doing psychotherapy with a psychiatrist and was ceremoniously dumped by her (dumped previously by a bimbo psychologist while in high school) ~30 years ago, I believe no matter what was she said that day would have made any difference for me to respond in a calm rational way after I left her office. I set on a course of continued self- destruct for thirty more years.

Thirty years later, a more recent therapist went on to repair the damage as she continued to reassure me it wasn't MY fault, the fault was theirs. Well, I now believe it wasn't the fault of one of the therapist for leaving terminating me. She was using due diligence, ~ 4 hour plus train ride, before cell phones could turn me around if an emergency came up on her end (I do wish it had ended over a few sessions). Yet, I also believe I would still have acted-out after leaving her office no matter what. Maybe, a few termination sessions may have helped shorten the time frame, ~30 years of self-destruct (I walked out on my Ph.D program).

Those intense feelings that were unnamed and were so bent on destroying me were gonna happen no matter what. There was nothing the therapist could have done 'at that moment' to have lessened the impact. I think I overdosed within a few hours.

Fast forward. I have a great setup now with a therapist on standby — my ex therapist and I embarked on a friendship — who will see me if things come up. I only hope she doesn't retire in the next decade if need arises. But, I also know how to be a savvy shopper when negotiating in the "lands of therapists."

So, how do therapist go about making it pretty or can they?