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Originally Posted by licketysplit
It starts from the beginning, with:
- not making promises to never leave
- not fostering dependency by encouraging between session contact to process emotions
- making it clear that the type of therapy they practice does not focus on the therapeutic relationship (and if it does, then they do have an obligation to stick it out)
- apologizing
- admitting to not being skilled enough
- not blaming the client
And, if it's clear that to the therapist that she/he isn't skilled enough, to find a good referral and continue to see the client for check ins (like an MD would do). |
I hear you loud and clear. BUT, my exthera did tall of the above., except she never blamed me for anything. When she was stuck she went back and reread all of Bowlby's volumes of work, sought out a colleagues to help her help me get through.
We went round a lot in the beginning and the middle of therapy, "never leave me,"and my proof to her was what was happening too many people here on PC, so her promise did not mean squat! "Nothing I can do if I die..." She was speaking to the adult, 'the cognitive' part of me, and I got it. That did not stop her from having to actually tell the distressed part of me over 100 times, "I'm not going to leave you."
Still on my bedroom wall is the paper she gave me that said, "I Am Not Going AnyWhere, No Matter What!
I Am HERE
I got real lucky!