I know what you mean - I tend to be on the "nice" a.k.a. "take advantage of Ann" side.

However, I do have to say something that someone suggested to me last week. When we are depressed, we tend to see everything in black and white, missing all of the shades of gray.

Just suggesting that you find a happy medium between the two - ***** and wimp. It's a constant struggle for me.

Hugs to you - sorry you are having a rough time.