I'm tossing around terminating with my t, well she and I have been tossing around the idea, dancing around it I guess actually... we've been talking for almost 3.5 years now, and she said the other day that what we're doing is not really therapy anymore, I forgot what word she used instead. We have not set an actual termination date yet, but my last couple of sessions have definitely felt like "we're winding things up" sessions to me. I want it this way, I want to process the winding up, breaking away, and the goodbyes with her.