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Originally Posted by Werewoman
For what it's worth, as long as you think you suck at life, you will. Are you sure it's the therapists who are the idiots? I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm just trying to get your attention. What are you worried will be exposed? Your belief in your own incompetence? If you don't want people to think you're a loser and pity you, then you need to stop acting so pathetic. You become pathetic when you try to fake people out to make them think you are normal and desirable when you are convinced otherwise. It's ridiculous to expect others to see you as someone you are not when you are so certain you are a loser and then walk away from them as soon as you perceive that they have seen you for what you think you are. I have to wonder if you even give them the opportunity to get to know you. So what if you slip up - do you really want to be friends with people who expect you to be perfect?
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I guess I should rephrase this. It's not so much that I slip up once, it's that I keep saying and doing things that give people the impression I am dumb. My experience has been that once people get an idea like that about you, it tends to stick. I don't really like being friends with people who think I am dumb, even if that's what I am, because dumb people are looked down on in society.
In terms of dating, idk there might be exceptions for various reasons, but I have read it is a scientific fact that competence is one of the main qualities that attracts women. The reason confidence is an attractive quality is because confident men are usually confident because they are competent. Women are wired through evolution to desire men who will protect them and be a good father to their children.